We recently came across the story of the married couple in Bosnia who cheated ..... with each other!

How in the world did that happen? Well, it seems Sana Klaric and husband Adnan were so unhappily married, they both decided (secretly of course) to look for love in an online chat room. What they found was - you guessed it! - their other half.


Using the names "Sweetie" and "Prince of Joy", they spent much time commiserating about the troubled state of their respective marriages. In fact, they made such a deep connection, they finally agreed to meet in person.

"I was suddenly in love. It was amazing. We seemed to be stuck in the same kind of miserable marriage. How right that turned out to be," Sana, 27, said. Adnan, 32, said: "I still find it hard to believe that Sweetie, who wrote such wonderful things, is actually the same woman I married and who has not said a nice word to me for years".

They have subsequently filed for divorce, accusing each other of being unfaithful (you can read the article HERE).

What has this story got to do with building a better marriage? Everything!

You would be hard pressed to find a more perfect example of what can happen when two people stop communicating with each other. It seems clear that whatever attraction brought them together in the first place was still present and strong; just imagine if they had been honest and told each other the complaints they thought they were telling 'Sweetie' and 'Prince of Joy'.

Adnan couldn't believe that his wife, whom he claimed hadn't been nice to him in years, could be 'Sweetie', the woman who was so gentle and loving .... but she was! She was indeed the same person; the only difference between Sweetie and Sana was that 'Sweetie' was on her best behavior! What might have been possible if Sana had tried the same tactic of saying "wonderful things" to her husband as she did with her 'Prince of Joy'?

Sana claimed to be "suddenly in love" because she and the 'Prince of Joy' were both "stuck in the same kind of miserable marriage"; what might have happened if Adnan had revealed to Sana that he was just as dejected about their relationship as she was? She might have found that she was actually in love with her own husband before she decided to cheat!

Would the outcome of this story have been different if they had had the courage to be truthful and talk with each other about their perceived problems? YES, YES, YES!

Think back to when you fell in love with your spouse; I'm betting good money that you did your best to prove you were worthy of their love. You were thoughtful, polite, respectful and civil. You did little things just to let them know you loved them; you wanted to hold their hand, to touch them, to cuddle with them, and you said "I Love You" every day! Why allow this behavior to change?

Yes, I know couples are hard-pressed to maintain that glow of romantic love once real-life pressures from things like family and work come into play, and of course married life is not always a bed of roses ... but it's in YOUR power to stop it from becoming a bed of thorns!